You're too much
Maybe you’re not too much; maybe they’re not enough.
I’ve shared that as a kid, I was frequently called “too sensitive.”
I cried at sad things.
I cried at happy things.
I cried at cheesy commercials.
Even today, I still get choked up and have been known to shed a tear at weddings, funerals, and graduations, or when someone with perfect pitch sings the national anthem.
My family knows that I’ll be the first to well up (and the one who always has extra tissues).
But don’t get me wrong: I was and still am a super joyful person; it’s just that I feel all of the feels. Deeply. As well as the emotions of others.
Unfortunately, being labeled by others as “too” much of something is an increasingly common practice.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever been called:
Too loud
Too quiet
Too pushy
Too timid
Too nice
Too mean
Too emotional
Too analytical
Too shy
Too brash
Too agreeable
Too stubborn
Too rushed
Too methodical
The problem is that it immediately sets up a no-win situation. If you’re too much of something undesirable, you’re not enough of its opposite, that so-called desirable thing. Plus, you feel bad about being you and often feel the need to mask that trait.
That’s a horrible existence. And it robs others of your gifts.
However, if you turn that label inside out, you’ll often find a hidden superpower.
A woman labeled “too aggressive” is also the one who builds a thriving 7-figure business. (Several, actually. She’s my badass client.)
A man called “too contrarian” has the devil’s advocate perspective likely to help him find innovative solutions others miss.
And for me, being “too sensitive” means I’m highly attuned to others and make them feel seen and heard. I’m able to listen between the lines to hear things not said, observe subtle nuances in speech and behavior, and pick up on someone’s energy immediately. My empathetic nature also draws others in so much that they trust and confide in me.
So, call me “too sensitive” all you want. I take it as a compliment.
And the next time someone calls you “too” something, remember these two things:
No matter what, you will be too much for some people. Those aren’t your people.
Maybe you’re not too much; maybe they’re not enough.
Sometimes, it’s the world that seems “too much,” and nothing goes right, despite your best efforts.
Ever have one of those days?
The frustration you’re feeling isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
And in my latest Forbes article, I share four truths about how it can help you.
And in a world where too many aspire to be “influencers,” the savviest leaders strive for something even greater.
ICYMI, in my recent (as in a few days ago) Forbes article, I share three reasons to go beyond influence to create positive impact in your career.
Here’s to being “too you,” friends!
Shine on,
Amy
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